"Am I gay if I am in love with a transgender/transsexual woman?"
This is quite a controversial topic and I wanted to talk about it a few weeks ago. Generally speaking, men love and appreciate beauty, brains and dedication when it comes to their life partners. Not once did it happen for a 100% convinced heterosexual man to fall in love with a transsexual girl because of her long legs and feminine body traits, but also because she managed to understand him better than any other woman. The thing is that when this happens, men are quite affraid to get in contact with transsexual girls or express their feelings because they think this would make them be or look gay, and this is the last thing they want.
I`ve decided to write this article because too many men have stepped aside from a relationship or a simple chat with a transsexual girl because of their preconceptions and because of the fact they weren`t brave enough to take the bull by it`s horns and look deeper into the problem. Being in love with a transgender does NOT make you gay, because T-girls look, feel and act exactly like women, the only difference between them and genetic women is that T-girls were biologically male. To be more precise, you`re not gay because you`re in love with girls with the little extra, hehe.
First of all, I`d like to get one thing straight: transsexual girls DO NOT want a relationship with gay men. This is quite a common confusion made by heterosexual people but also by the LGBT people who believe that T-girls want gay men. That`s totally wrong, and I`m going to explain you why:
The explanation is simple: the word "gay" reffers to a person who is sexually, physically and mentally attracted by somebody of the same gender. Therefore we have gay men and gay women (lesbians). As a following, gay men want hung, muscled, masculine MEN, not transgenders! Gay men were not gay at all if they wanted transsexuals, right? Transgenders (no matter if they`re pre-op or post-op) only deal with bisexual, pansexual and heterosexual guys who aren`t affraid of expressing their sexuality and push the limits. It`s true that not everybody likes transsexuals, but many, many men do.
There are a few situations when heterosexual men can be seen as bisexuals (it`s wrong for a hetero guy to say "does that make me gay?", if he has been having contact with women for his entire life and he`s convinced he`s into girls). For instance, when a straight guy tries to have sexual intercourse with a transgender or a masculine/feminine gay guy, he can be seen as a bisexual (or often called "bi-curious", when they try new things in order to see how far can they push their sexuality).
In addition to what I`ve said earlier, if a heterosexual guy has intimate contact with a post-op transsexual girl, he`s still straight because physically speaking, there is absolutely no difference between a transsexual girl and a genetic woman, so whether the the guy has intimate intercourse with a T-girl or a woman, he is 100% heterosexual. It`s all a matter of self perception, because while some guys like to call themselves bisexuals, others claim to be heterosexuals even if they had sex with men.