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Here are some funny points that hold a seed of truth in them (coincidence or not??), which can help us find out if someone is gay or not:
One of the most frequent issues that male-to-female and female-to-male transgender people deal with is their name. At birth, our names were given according to the biological gender, but as we grow up, some of us figure out that the name does not match with our true gender, so to say. Changing your name in such way that it fits the gender you identify yourself with isn`t easy, but it is something that will definitely make your life easier and will avoid any stupid questions.
Unfortunately, the name and surname from the ID/passport can be really nasty for a transgender. I`m saying this because there still are lots of narrow minded people out there, who would have some issues with transgender people, and it`s really unpleasant for you when you look 200% passable and people find out you`re transgender because your surname is typically male.
When we say "LGBT event", the first thing that comes into our minds is gay prides, right? Actually, the list of LGBT events and LGBT holidays is way larger, and it includes days or remembrance for those who lost their lives either due to homophobia or transphobia or to AIDS and many others.
Although the list is not huge, there are several LGBT events which are celebrated worldwide or only in some parts of the world. One thing is for sure: gay prides are the most common and well known LGBT events, and today lots of countries all around the world celebrate gay and LGBT prides yearly. The first gay pride was held 41 years ago, and nowadays gay prides have become so popular that even millions of people started to attend them, like it happened this year at Sao Paolo`s Gay Pride, where more than 3 million people are said to have attended the march.
Couple in Love.
I think it`s time to talk about something more serious this time, because I`ve seen so many girls who are basically "playing with fire". It`s true, we all have the right to do whatever we want with our lives, but it`s also true that we are the only ones to be held resposible for the bad things that may happen to us. I`m now talking about the transgender girls that hide their sexuality from their dates/boyfriends.
You`ve probably seen "A girl like me - The Gwen Araujo Story". If you haven`t, well you should, but anyway I`m going to put it in a nutshell. Gwen was a 17 yo feminine and passable transgender teenager, who was sexually intimate with a couple of guys who thought Gwen was a genetic girl. When they found out that Gwen Araujo was actually a transgender, they`ve beaten her to death. It`s a very sad story, but these things really happen in real life. The movie is made after a real case, and Gwen Araujo died in 2002
Take a breath... take it deep, hehe. Photo from: zonagay.info
Coming out can be quite stressful. Trust me, been there done that, so I know what it feels like to continuously ask yourself "wait, will they love me the same or will they kick me out or the house?", or wonder if the one who`s been your friend for the past 10 years will see you in a different way. However, here you will find a few advices from somebody who made her coming out around the age of 13. And here I am, alive and kicking!
First of all, you need to keep the stress level under control. It is known that stress is very harmful not only for your mental health, but also for your physical health, and the last thing you`d need is to get sick or anything.
Gay couple. Photo from: http://commons.wikimedia.org
Due to the fact that nowadays a very large number of people have access to Internet worldwide, the online gay and lgbt dating sites are very popular among those who want to find their soulmate, want to meet people & make new friends or simply want to spend a pleasant evening with somebody. I have decided to write down a top of the most popular gay and LGBT dating sites on the web, for those of you who decide to open an account on one of them.
1. GayRomeo.com - Gay Romeo is probably the most known gay dating site on the Internet. Millions of users to choose from, and GayRomeo allows everybody to create a profile regardless of their sexuality: transgenders, bisexuals and gay men can easily find a date on GayRomeo, since thousands of users are online all the time, worldwide.
Don`t blow your cover! Photo From: http://www.totuldesprenunti.ro
Lots of LGBT people who are not ready to come out to their families yet want to meet somebody for sexual intercourse, for a relationship or simply for a nice chat. In the end, who understands gay, bisexual and transgender people better than other LGBT people, right? However, since you`re in the closet and you`d like to stay that way, the chances significantly decrease when it comes to meeting others like you.
I`ve heard countless in-the-closet gay men telling me how they got boyfriends without coming out to anybody. Well, it`s true that they were straight looking and acting, but what`s the secret, how do you hook up with another gay man and still pass as straight to everybody else? Well, here are a few tips if you wanna meet others like you in a discreet manner:
Do you use a condom? Photo From: http://www.taringa.net
Believe it or not, condoms have been existing and used in different societies for hundreds of years, and as long as there will be sexual transmitted diseases such as the HIV virus or syphilis, they will keep on existing. Why gay people use condoms? Well, while some people use them because rubber turns them one (people with rubber fetish), most of the gay men and gay women use condoms in order to prevent infection with these terrible diseases. Besides these reasons, heterosexual people mostly use condoms for birth control.
Nowadays, you can find a condom that best meets your needs at every shop, regardless of how small it is. There are millions of them out there: some are very cheap, while others can cost you lots of money, according to what you want. All shapes and sizes are now available on the market for gay people who want to be safe and also keep their partners safe. In addition to this, gay people can also enjoy flavoured condoms, especially designed for oral sex. Yes, there are many types of condoms made for oral sex, in order to enhance protection against diseases and also make oral sex more pleasant for the one who performs it.
You know, straight, lesbian and bisexual women generally speaking (transgender women and few men, too) care a lot about flirting and foreplay. I also do care about flirting and foreplay, because I think they`re necessary for a perfect sexual act. However, most of the gay men don`t put so much accent on flirting. They like to keep it as simple as possible, without complications: they see a cute guy in a gay bar standing by the table, he winks at him and that`s all. Not a general rule, though.
Flirting is an art, if you ask me. If you know how to flirt, you can have almost anyone you know. All the bisexual guys I`ve met knew how to flirt and act like gentlemen, and for a women that`s what matters the most. Women, generally speaking, don`t like to get "straight to the point", and this is where flirting steps in. Whether you`re in a bar, at a restaurant or simply at your workplace, a man or a woman who has flirting skills will definitely not pass unobserved.
Silicone bras can create a wonderful cleavage!
Creating cleavage and breasts is very important for every crossdresser, especially that boobs are seen as an element which significantly improves a crossdresser`s chances of being passable as a female. There are many methods of creating cleavage and somehow "tricking" people into believing that you actually have natural breasts, some of these methods can involve showing the superior part of the breast or fully covering them. However, having nice cleavage and breasts that resemble silicone implants by creating cleavage isn`t hard at all, and it`s cheap and easy, too.
Some crossdressers like to go for the simple thing, such as fake breasts. They feel almost natural when touched, but yet, you can`t really expose them because it often happens that your skin colour doesn`t match the one of the fake breasts (they`re colour is usually lighter than your skin tone), so everybody could spot the difference and figure out that they`re not natural. Therefore, if you still wanna go for fake breasts and not for cleavage, my advice is to hide them under a blouse, so the shape and texture resembles the one of the natural, real breast when touched.
