Gay people, open your eyes!
We’re told that geese and other water fowl have life long monogamous relationships. It’s good to learn that there’s at least one animal that does. We humans have a harder time being faithful to our lovers throughout life.
It’s not that long-term monogamy doesn’t exist in gay relationships. It does, but not often. Many unproven theories explain why men (gay or straight) have problems remaining with one sexual partner. Evolutionary psychologists maintain that the cause is genetic, the effects of evolution over tens of thousands of years, starting with the cavemen. Their impregnating as many women as possible in the shortest time was the most efficient way of ensuring the propagation of the species.
Most mammals seem to behave the same way. Feminists adamantly reject genetics (and biological theories about anything), suggesting instead that our cavemen behavior is the result of social learning in a patriarchal society and our inability to form intimate relationships. A few of them call us sexual pigs.
Designer.
It is a fact that most gay people nowadays choose to be designers, make-up artists, hairstylists or painters. But what is it that makes gay people so popular in arts field? Did anybody wonder where do they got this talent from (well, most of them, I`ve seen gay designers failing little by little in a remarkable way, lol)? I`ve been asking myself this question and still didn`t manage to get an answer, maybe you could help me and tell me why do gay people are so talented.
There would be many examples to be given, like famous designers and brand owners who managed to stand up and make a name for themselves. Some people say that the talent is native and "comes with the package" and gay people have this 6th sense especially when it comes to clothing and visual arts. Don`t really know if there are any researches made in order to determine the factor that makes gays have so reffined tastes in the arts field. Oh well, I do feel the need to repeat myself though and highlight the fact that not all gay people are good in what they`re doing. Being a famous, well-known designer and follow Coco Chanel for example would be everybody`s dream, and this is why more and more gay people become designers, some of them forget the fact that it takes TALENT in order to become successful (I do have a couple of fashion victim friends like this).
Gay couples. When it's time to let go?
In George Orwell’s novel 1984, O’Brien asks, "What is the worst thing in the world?" For most of us it is feeling unloved and abandoned. These are all the primary feelings experienced when a love relationship ends. Sometimes the lovers have been quarreling for years. For other couples, months or years of silent distance abruptly end as one partner announces, to the astonishment of the other, that their relationship is over. No matter how long the relationship has lasted, and no matter how the end comes about, termination is painful for both parties; sometimes devastating to just one; sometimes to both.
What is worse, some men can’t let go of the past. They tenaciously hold on to the conviction that he still loves me in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary. Invariably, the holder-on is obsessed with finding evidence that his former lover still loves him. These indications turn out to be flagrant distortions of the truth. The personality and character of the beloved are transformed into something approaching saintliness. Unkind acts are reinterpreted as benevolent; even abuse can be reinterpreted as love. This is obsessive love, and its effects are harmful all the time.
Denying the fact you`re different won`t make you less gay !!!
It is quite hard to accept yourself if you are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender, and this is why some of us just don`t want to come to terms with their true identity for a long time, maybe for too long. Maybe it is because of their parents or their friends that would hate and reject and this is why they are afraid to come out of the closet and be proud of what they really are. I`m gonna present you a story in here about a colleague I had at work when I was a translator last year.
You probably know the gay stereotype when he`s extremely homophobic and actually he goes to gay prides and stuff to show his or her true face, right? I`ve seen this sort of annoying behaviour last year, when Jack my colleague from the translation department just had to mock on me daily. I mean, what the hell was his problem? He wasn`t actually mocking, but he was making bad jokes and stuff that always make you feel embarrassed. Anyway, the thing is that Jack was around 30 last year and he was one of the most homophobic persons I`ve met in my life, you just couldn`t be friend with such a person no matter how hard you`ll try.
Upset parents.
Well, I was thinking about writing this article a couple of weeks ago because it`s a very interesting topic and I`d like to know more stories of gay, bisexual, lesbian and transgender people who came out to their parents. I`m gonna start with my story, my parents and I`m going to explain you how all this thing went for me : early reactions, misunderstanding of terms, regrets, remorse for not being better parents and so on and so forth.
I came out of the closet as gay when I was a teenager. I firstly told my mother that there`s something different about me (I felt this since I was 6-7 or so) and after that I explained her that I might be gay because I was very fond of boys and I could NEVER see girls in other ways than best friends. She was a bit shocked at first because she was familiar with the dangers and diseases in this LGBT community so I guess it was normal for her to be a bit concerned, nobody judged nobody. The good thing is that now she is accepting the idea and she seems to be quite friendly when it comes to my boyfriend! Who would have thought ... .
Too many rumors and too much gossip, people!
It is known that there are some weak points and prejudices regarding certain things when it comes to gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people. These people can be great friends and confidents, but on the other hand there is something that "bursts the bubble", from my point of view. Here I`m going to present you some of the major "flaws" if I may call them that way regarding the LGBT community.
First of all, for instance the gay community are said to be extremely shallow and they usually don`t care about involving emotionally in a relationship, this is why most of them end up old, single and craving for twinks and neverending love, lol. Of course that this doesn`t apply to everybody, but it is how the majority of the gay community act like. You talk over the Internet about sizes and fetishes and after less than 5 minutes of chatting you date somebody and satisfy your needs. Nothing wrong with this if it happens rarely, but once it is a habit things aren`t so okay from my point of view, don`t you agree? So one of the weak points of the gay community is that most of them are shallow (not only gays, it was only an example !).
DNA and intersex people.
One of my panpals asked me in a comment at the articles before this to write something about intersex people. I admit it that I`ve heard about the meaning of being an intersex but I didn`t manage to write an article so far so... here I am! Here you`ll find out more things about what intersex people are and how often the others (even from the LGBT community) misunderstand the meaning of this word and use it in an unappropriate way, creating confusion and offending.
Basically, being an intersex guy or girl reffers in most cases to the genitalia, the intersex is that person who has parts of both female and male genitalia (hermaphrodites). It often happens that intersex people also encounter with physical features that belong to both genders, not only the genitalia part. So, to put it in a nutshell, just as the term of "intersex" suggest, a person like this does not have a particular, clearly defined gender.
Hate a common "value" among homophobic families.
Even if the world has evolved very much throughout time, regardless of the area of activity we`re talking about, some people just have their perceptions and prejudices that can`t be changed that easily, no matter how good you are at persuading people. Same works for homophobic parents and families, where gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people live under pressure and stress so they`re lives are basically hell.
Happily, I have found (and experienced!) some ways that can help gay, bisexual, lesbian and transgender people to cope with their homophobic families. You see, I have a homophobic father that just can`t accept the fact that I am different from the others, and he never will even though he loves me and he showed me this so many times. My mother is ok with the idea now, although she`s been against it for so long. On one hand, it`s understandable for a parent not to accept the fact that maybe he won`t have grandsons and the people will gossip me at every corner, so I don`t judge him, you know ...?
Boo! Curiosity killed the cat, you know... !
When you are out as gay, lesbian, bisexual and especially transgender, it is impossible to be missed by the curious looks of all the people that either don`t understand what`s going on or they are haters and they`re simply against the LGBT community. This is only one of the many disadvantages of being different in a world where everything that is "abnormal" is seen as WRONG!
Throughout their lives, gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transgenders encounter with many problems, beginning with problems at home with their families and ending with discrimination at their workplaces. In addition to this, when you go home tired after an exhausting day at work and you see everybody staring and giggling in front of you as if you were an alien (maybe E.T.`s relative, for God`s sake...), it is annoying and frustrating and you are simply in the mood for killing, hehe!
Candis Cayne, transgender actress
We can see all over the news transgender people that have become models. They look gorgeous, they are tall, skinny and classy and this is why they think they can model. And hell, they`re right! I`ve seen Isis King at America`s Next Top Model and at the Tyra Banks Show, she was absolutely stunning and I have to admit that now when I saw her with my eyes I believe those who told me before that she looks better than a biological woman!
What makes transgender people so successful as models? Well, If you ask me I think that the height is one of the most important factors to take into consideration when it comes to explaining this. Besides height, transgender women have beautiful, long legs and if they are skinny they are the perfect models. Although some flaws such as big hands or large shoulders are frequently met among the transgender community, they can be easily masked with the right outfit and accessories. In addition to the physical qualities, there is this style and talent of doing the catwalk that you were born with, hehe.
